From the age of 16, Cici has held a deep affection for traditional Chinese culture. Immersed in the classics, she became convinced that knowledge shapes ability but character determines direction. Only those with responsibility, courage and a global outlook can navigate life’s journey with confidence.

When choosing a school for Iris, Cici sought one that would nurture academic excellence and develop character in a systematic and sustained way. The opening of Hiba Academy Nantong nearby meant she could have both, so she enrolled Iris at once, becoming a founding parent.

Three years on, Iris has progressed academically and shown remarkable growth in character and outlook. Cici has seen that Hiba’s values—kindness, respect, responsibility, courage and integrity—are not mere slogans but are embedded in daily life, quietly shaping the children’s inner worlds and guiding them towards positivity.

When Iris first joined Hiba Academy Nantong, Cici had a detailed plan in mind: strong academics, wide interests and perhaps a shared love for traditional dress. But every child develops in their own way. Early in her Hiba journey, Iris was given small responsibilities— packing her bag, organising daily tasks and making her own choices in group activities. These simple habits nurtured self-reliance and the belief, “I can do this.”

A turning point came during a four-day boarding camp. Teachers acted as guides, encouraging the pupils to think for themselves rather than stepping in to solve every problem. Iris not only managed daily challenges but also handled her emotions calmly. Seeing this, Cici began to reconsider her original roadmap.

Over time, Iris became more confident and independent. She voiced her opinions in class, presented her ideas in activities and responded thoughtfully when her mother suggested plans: “I’m not so interested in that right now. Let’s see later.”

Cici realised that children learn to listen inwards and speak outwards. She shifted from meticulous planning to wholehearted companionship. When Iris showed an interest in music, Cici encouraged her to explore. Through co-curricular activities, Iris tried bel canto, yangqin and piano. She discovered her passions through different melodies and rhythms.

Today, the roadmap still exists, but now Iris draws it for herself.

 

Education is never a one-way process; it’s a shared journey. Children long to explore freely, and parents learn when to let go. This is not stepping away, but allowing pupils to take responsibility for their own paths.

 

We look forward to introducing more Hiba parents as they share their own stories and reflections. 

 

Stay tuned for the next episode of Hiba Reflections: Parental Wisdom.